Clean Your F*cking House B*tch
Our minds are like houses. When they're new, they're empty. As we live our lives we acquire treasures that eventually turn into shit that creates clutter. Some of this stuff is useful, while some of it is simply junk which just creates obstacles for us. What if we could eliminate the nonsense we don't need, and create more room for useful things? Join us on this podcast where we discuss removing what we don't need, implementing beneficial changes to our minds, bodies and souls, to create a life of abundance and fulfillment.
Clean Your F*cking House B*tch
Ep. 106 - Your Thoughts Create Your Reality – Are You Building What You Want?
We explore the power of the mind and how our thoughts create our reality. Cleaning mental clutter requires understanding our true intentions and values while being open to growth.
• The mind is our most powerful tool for success but gets filled with "useless shit" that hinders progress
• Knowing people's true intentions helps us accept different perspectives without feeling offended
• Most negativity comes from within ourselves, not external circumstances
• Turning inward to understand our thought processes is essential for personal growth
• Energy is what we create more of in our environment - choose wisely what you focus on
• Growth can come from both resonating with like-minded people and exposure to different perspectives
• Fear often prevents people from stepping outside their comfort zones
• Being rigid in values and beliefs may limit personal development
• Both comfort and discomfort can lead to empowerment if we self-reflect honestly
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Hello and welcome to Clean your Fucking House, bitch, with Nancy, kevin and Lou. In our program we get real about the challenges of life and living. Your mind is the most powerful tool you have to ensure you are on your desired path for success and satisfaction. Yet from the day you are born, you gradually and subconsciously fill it with tons of useless shit that gets in your way. Why is that? How can you clean that mess up? We'll show you how. Get ready to clean your fucking house.
Speaker 2:We are bouncing around this evening talking about carnivals, acceptance, what is okay, what isn't okay, what's true in your heart? What's been around since Hundreds of?
Speaker 3:years ago. Well Lou brought up his childhood from the.
Speaker 1:I was going to say cut to the chase, it's what offends people?
Speaker 2:His childhood.
Speaker 3:Lou's childhood in the 1800s.
Speaker 1:You know it's funny to our listeners. You probably have. For the folks who have heard us many, many times, you probably have gotten to the point. We have a pretty good sense of each of us in terms of our own ideologies and backgrounds and values and so forth. We are very much on the same page with many, many things. Yeah, no fucking way. Even when we're not well, even when we're not, we have good discussion and good debates and for the most part, but we also can get passionate about things and folks. That was sort of where why we got to where we're at, because it's such an interesting dynamic when you know you try to have conversations in a group and you have people who don't agree, people who and using the word again may be offended by something you say, a joke or whatever. How far is too far?
Speaker 3:That's the difference. No one got offended, proving my point.
Speaker 2:Well, not here Between the three of us. No one got offended In the circle of trust.
Speaker 3:Yeah, podcast of trust.
Speaker 1:Let me ask you is that because we know each other, Like if I don't know, I'm trying to think?
Speaker 2:No is one word, and accept is another, and I think we know each other pretty well. Right, but really maybe not, but we accept each other.
Speaker 1:Well, I'm curious. I am like I am curious to take that a bit further and say is there something that Kevin could say, nancy, that would make you go? What the fuck? This guy offends me.
Speaker 3:Like well, maybe not.
Speaker 1:No, but is that because okay, Cause we know each other.
Speaker 3:I think I do think that you hit the nail on the head, lou is that we do know each other, so we know our true intentions and we're not hateful people. We're not trying to damage or hurt one another Like. We can talk shit, we can disagree, we can have a heated debate, but ultimately we all know what the well like, what our truth is, and I think that when you take that into the equation, that's a huge piece.
Speaker 1:So do you think that people now are more quick to think that there's ill intentions in someone's heart?
Speaker 1:If something is, said that they don't know, watch the news Well, and I'll share my thoughts with the audience that I shared with both Kevin and Nancy in terms of that response to that question I just asked. To me it feels like the louder ones are just out there protesting, say and I'm going to use the phrase on both sides only, although there's probably multiple sides but it just seems like I think a minority of folks are the ones that are protesting the loudest to be heard about you know, their um issues or whatnot, and the rest of us are just like, oh, whatever, I just want to fucking live my life and go to work and do shit and not care about these little things that really don't matter.
Speaker 3:End of the day, big picture wise I think one of the big differences for me at least for my, through my lens is that the certain type of people that take accountability for their lives and where they're at like you can only get caught up in so much before you're like this is negatively impacting me. It's within my control. I'm choosing to allow this to happen and I need to put my head down and get my shit back together. At least that's how I feel. Like there's enough things you can focus on that are negative. Like the world's a pretty fucked up place, depending on what you're looking at. So change your world by changing your perspective. Like don't focus on these things. You. You get too deep down these rabbit holes or whatever. Like we can always find shit right, but let's be real. Energy is what we create more of within our environment but that's hard to do.
Speaker 2:So. So great intention and I love that you brought that word to the table because it's easy to say change your perspective. How do you do that? What the F is that Like? How do you do that? So? But but not being pulled into or forced or feel pressure to agree with the stuff that we hear, the bullshit on the news or the things happening around us, being able to kind of separate.
Speaker 1:So I'm going to go to a place, though, to kind of play devil's advocate. One of the ways I myself learned more about shit that I wasn't exposed to growing up and understanding that stuff was exposure, literally just being part of communities and tribes and places that I may not have otherwise gone to because they were out either outside my comfort zone or outside my traditional community, and I thought that was valuable and helpful. But a lot of people feel they're most comfortable getting back to kind of Kevin's point about I need to zone out all this shit that is driving me crazy and stressing me out and making my life negative by only being around and maybe this isn't really, I know, I don't think this is where you were going, but it just made me think of this is I find most comfort and calmness and positivity by being around only those that do agree with me or I agree with Both are so true.
Speaker 2:No, both are so true, but what you're talking about is excess. Allowing yourself exposure to things that will help you expand your perspective and grow and learn are one thing, but when all of that becomes excess which much of it is in the world today how do you separate yourself from your core values and that excess around you and there's a lot of it yeah, and I think it's also what you mentioned about core values.
Speaker 1:I would hope that it folks would be open, most folks would be open to either and it kind of gets back to beliefs as well either, and not that they need to change them, but being open to the possibility of change and also trying to control how other people are right.
Speaker 3:Well, partially.
Speaker 1:I'm thinking maybe expanding.
Speaker 3:Environment is big. So if you're surrounding yourself in an environment or situation where there's people that are not on your path or that don't have the same values that you do, it doesn't necessarily make them wrong, and it's not your responsibility to change. Your responsibility is to be able to turn inward if needed and be the light so that you can impact others around you that want to be on the path you're on and on the journey that you're on, trying to change other people. It's a deep fucking hole, man. You can't do it.
Speaker 1:I agree, yeah, and I would not advocate that at all. I'm thinking more in terms of ourselves, like be, and not that that would be someone else changing us, but being open, like our core value system shouldn't be a box of five and it's ended it. There should be. I'm not using a good analogy here but I hope there's space for additional values to be inserted as life goes on. Let's put it that way, of course.
Speaker 2:If we're open, if we're not rigid, if our boundaries, our circle of control are not rigid. They're firm but they allow us to extend the contract with the stuff that happens in the world around us. The world around us, we can open our space to hear and listen to whatever some of that is, and then decide what makes sense and then tighten back up to eliminate the stuff that doesn't make sense. It's pure bullshit that we need to put aside.
Speaker 1:So why do you think that there are some people, then, who will never, ever stray from whatever values and beliefs and whatnot they have?
Speaker 3:Is it just they're?
Speaker 1:just not open to growth.
Speaker 3:They're not open, they're not there. It doesn't make them wrong either. I don't think it just yeah. I don't think it's also go through different stages in life where maybe something will happen, where we do have an epiphany and we're like, oh, I was judging this person because of xyz. Now I've gotten to know them and I realized that these predetermined thoughts I had about X, y, z were wrong.
Speaker 2:I was absolutely true. And then it's also possible that they had a previous experience in life that went south in some way and fear lives in them Like they can. They just fear that it's going to go wrong. They can't step outside of their space because something else will go wrong, and so they're just going to stay right here. I'm not going home.
Speaker 1:And why do you think some of that is? Do you think there's an aspect of poor parenting I don't want to say poor parenting because that implies good, bad, right, wrong of a certain parenting style, parenting technique that may.
Speaker 2:I mean like I've had experiences that have held me back from being open to my own future opportunities, because fear wrapped me up too tight and I was like, okay, I'm comfortable here, gonna stay here, yeah fear can be so strong. Yeah.
Speaker 3:In my opinion, it takes intent and awareness to be able to understand how one's thoughts operate. So you turn inward to get to know yourself better and how you think, and then the emotions that you're having, which comes from the thoughts, the actions that you take in life, come from the thoughts, then the emotions, then the actions. So that's what I mean Like step one learn who you are, develop a relationship with yourself, like be honest, and then at that point I think I feel most people will then realize that there are things they want to change or improve on. I don't think any of us are there where we're like you know, life is fucking great. I'm the perfect person. I have no growth whatsoever, you know. But I think step one is like going inward and I think to Nancy, to Nancy's point, like there's so much stimulus everywhere and excess.
Speaker 2:We never get that silence us everywhere that we never get that silence, we never take that step and that silence to do, to do that reflection of this. Is this my thought, yes or no? Do I agree with that thought, yes or no? Do I want to agree with that thought, yes or no? Can I live that thought, yes or no? Can I breathe that thought, like, how does that really apply to me? And I think that's where it's the hardest place of all is to take that thought and learn how to dissect it and decide if it applies to you or not, and then we absorb all the if you will shit that's happening around us and pretty soon it is us and whether or not it really impacts our lives.
Speaker 1:end of the day, Like is it. Oh no, what I'm saying is some of the things that people really focus on or otherwise continue to harp on are oftentimes things that, end of the day, don't really matter.
Speaker 3:I don't know if it's about being right or what it is.
Speaker 2:But it does in their mind. Here's the other weird thing is how powerful the mind is, and whether it's ever to your point, Lou going to impact their life or not which is often not Becomes irrelevant when in their mind it could. And so in their mind they feel it. They carry the emotion, the fear, the tenseness that comes with what if that happens to me? It's never going to happen to you, but they can't separate that truth from their mind's fear of what if? And so they carry the tension that comes with it.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and, as we know, the body can't differentiate between us thinking and feeling something very intensely versus something actually happening in physical reality. So we create our reality here.
Speaker 2:In our minds, yeah.
Speaker 3:And then so much of the actions are reactive, right, they're subconscious. We just autopilot. Right, we just do things.
Speaker 2:We do it to ourselves. Most of the time it's us doing the shit to ourselves, not the world, the work person, the partner, the boss. A lot of the times it's us doing it to ourselves and we have to separate that. Okay, so I kind of get back to the original question. Well, one of the original questions. It's us doing it to ourselves and we have to separate that.
Speaker 1:Okay, so I kind of get back to the original question. Well, one of the original questions is and I I don't. I'm trying to phrase the question in a way that doesn't lead to the answer I don't want to hear.
Speaker 3:Oh, that makes sense. Look at Lou's really creating reality. What I mean by that is where do you?
Speaker 1:where do you? And I'll share with you what I don't want to hear for an answer, if I actually hear it, but in terms of where the value lies being around people we resonate with more, or being exposed to those we may not necessarily.
Speaker 3:Oh, that's not even a question. What's the question Necessarily? Oh, that's not even a question what's?
Speaker 2:the question If it's better, if it's more advantageous to be around people that we resonate with.
Speaker 1:Is this a test. Well, not really Because again a lot of my own growth came from exposure outside of my community.
Speaker 3:But was your growth because of that, or was it internal, because you were like, oh, these are things or thoughts that don't resonate with me. You exposed yourself to scenarios or environments that didn't resonate with you and you used that as power to change within yourself.
Speaker 1:It may have been accidental exposure.
Speaker 3:Let me ask you this Just same question to you, but like thinking about how you feel after either one of those scenarios, when you're with a bunch of people that have the same core values and you're having inspiring conversations and you feel connected, versus a situation where it's like what the that environment? Do you, which time, which scenario, do you feel energized and uplifted and you feel good about life versus what the fuck was that?
Speaker 1:That's actually a very good question and I what I'll share is actually how I myself conduct myself under those two scenarios, because I have encountered those two scenarios plenty of times and what I which both contribute to my growth arguably the one with the being around people that really that I resonate with and agree with say and we can have those dynamic conversations, I would say it's certainly far outweighs, in terms of value add, the other group. But what I get from the other group, I won't participate, say I'll listen, I'm more of a fly on the wall kind of thing, because and not that I fear putting my own opinion out there that may not agree with the rest, it's more like I just want to see what makes these fucking people tick, kind of thing.
Speaker 2:But so I kind of take it as a learning at the end of that experience.
Speaker 1:Well, yes and no, it depends, and I'll share why that too is. Some of those exposures have made me realize and understand that things weren't as I was told or led to believe. Growing up was told or led to believe growing up, or at all, yeah, and whether or not that was intentional or not. You know, oftentimes parents protect their children for various reasons, in certain ways and whatnot, but, and they themselves may develop um certain resistance to exposure for their own fears, but then they will also not allow their children to be exposed. Bottom line is what I'm saying is I'm like, oh shit, that and I think kevin used this exact phrase is that's not at all what I thought it was or what I was told it would be. And so just a few of those had made me kind of not all the time, but but where there may be opportunity, whether intentional or accidental, I'm like you know what. I kind of want to hear what this is about and what the fuck makes.
Speaker 2:I guess I get that and I hear you and I appreciate that you can be an experience where people are behaving or speaking that way. That creates all the what the fuck, and you could go home and feel self-reflective, that I feel good about my place in life, I feel good about my values, I feel good about my beliefs, and that's satisfying. But also on the other side of that, you could be with people that share those values and those beliefs and have experiences and time with them and go home and the whole level of energy is different. That was worth my time. I'm more inspired. I'm going to do more whatever Like. I think it generates more positive energy that both have. Both can have value. Both can have value.
Speaker 1:I think the being around a group that we may not completely resonate with, uh, I think offers a larger growth opportunity. It may not offer any at all. It may literally be something that brings no value. I'm just saying that when it's something new that we don't know anything about, say, there's a potential for a learning, whereas when you're around people that are just yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.
Speaker 3:Okay, you know, it's just an echo chamber more of a more of a resonance, not just to get a point across or or hear someone else's point, but it's like it's. It's more than that, it's a connection thing for me. I guess you know, and I guess if and like for for me, I guess you know, and like for the negative, I guess, for lack of a better term environment like there's enough fucking negative shit you can focus on to learn and expand your horizons.
Speaker 1:And let me clarify it may not necessarily be a negative or bad or right or just different, and that's maybe that's a key point in this whole damn conversation I've spent the last 30 minutes not clarifying that I didn't mean like being around kkk people, nothing like that, that's the image I had.
Speaker 3:No, no, I'm just saying blue, don't go to the, don't go to the clan rally, dude. No, like I don't have anything for you there?
Speaker 1:I have yet to, and I would love to go to a mosque and simply listen to what do they call it?
Speaker 2:it would be a service?
Speaker 2:I don't even know let's back up two steps, because I don't know where the kkk you can go to a mosque and I'd love to hear about your experience there. What I'd love to hearing from both of you look, I have to laugh, but what I love to hear from both of you is this that there can be this connection that can be valuable and you can feel all positive energy from time together with people that you're aligned with and have a really great experience. You can also go home from people who you're thinking I don't align with their values. I don't know what they're thinking. That's bullshit, that so-and-so said, I don't want to see them again next week at this time.
Speaker 2:And both can leave you feeling empowered to be who you are. If you can self-reflect and own that and I would offer that repetitively if you spent more time with the people that are different, that you're like what the fuck are you talking about and is this really what you believe that might bring you down? And that you could spend more time with the people who I love it. We're aligned, everything's wonderful, the world's perfect. That's misconceiving as well. So you need a mix. So you do, because both could leave you in a place of false yeah false and I'm not about to go to a kkk meeting by the way you've clarified.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, no, because and that's not yeah, would not be this. That to me, is 100 in a direction that I would never change my belief there, um, but I you know what. What would fascinate me and this is purely academic is getting back to the phrase I think I used earlier is what makes somebody like that tick. It's like an understanding exercise, um, but you know that's.
Speaker 2:I don't even need to understand.
Speaker 1:Well, that's well, and, and maybe this is from watching too many damn lifetime movies, but is you know, hate the hatred from something that happened with their own childhood, or is it hallmark? Movies were all about false love oh then maybe it's hallmark, I don't know what are those stations? Well, they'll show like where somebody will be in a situation like that and they'll, and they'll turn the person around, they'll make them see the light, kind of thing.
Speaker 2:Oh, I, always felt both were kind of false, so you can watch those if you prefer. You can't do it okay.
Speaker 1:well then I'll maybe make it to a mosque one of these days and share that experience, then see how that goes. But you know, I have to say being around you two, because we have shared values and a passion for certain things in life, this is the highlight of my week and I do, after these episodes, feel on such a high. I'm like woo, this is nice.
Speaker 3:Yeah, it is. Now you can pop some popcorn and watch.
Speaker 1:a Lifetime movie Is that even a station anymore. Like are they still in the air? I? Don't even know it's like MTV. It's not the MTV I grew up on, but yeah, on that note, any final parting words, kevin or Nancy, before we wrap things up here.
Speaker 2:Just ditto Lou.
Speaker 1:Okay, well, boy, talk about interesting conversations, folks. We hope you found this episode as educational and engaging and entertaining, as we always do.
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