It can be easy to feel like opportunity has passed us by at certain times in our lives or that we're too old to be making positive changes. If there is breath in your lungs, it's not too late. Get out there and make the changes you need to achieve the outcome you deserve.
It can be easy to feel like opportunity has passed us by at certain times in our lives or that we're too old to be making positive changes. If there is breath in your lungs, it's not too late. Get out there and make the changes you need to achieve the outcome you deserve.
Hello, and welcome to clean your fucking house bitch with Nancy, Kevin and Lou. In our program, we get real about the challenges of life and living. Your mind is the most powerful tool you have to ensure you are on your desired path for success and satisfaction. Yet from the day you are born, you gradually and subconsciously fill it with tons of useless shit that gets in your way. Why is that? How can you clean that mess up? We'll show you how to get ready to clean your fucking house. Hello, folks, welcome back to another amazing episode. You know, success looks different to different people. And at different points in the life today we're going to talk about success from the perspective of purpose. And what I find interesting. And I'll toss a couple of questions out to Nancy and Kevin. And then this is, you know, what, what does success look like? And again, at different points in our lives? In other words, when do we feel like we have perhaps achieved success? For me? It depends a lot on our sense of purpose. Purpose is what propels us forward. It's all of us, Kevin, Nancy and I were familiar with some work that we that we've done together in the past, where we've talked about having a vision with pulling power vision with pulling power, is what helps propel you forward. And it benefits us not just in work in our relationships, but in our health and well being. I mean, it really, when we have such a vision with pulling power, it really makes us just healthier in so many ways. What I find interesting is that, again, getting back to when do you feel you have successes, the number of different people who have achieved success much later in life. Now, I don't know if you Kevin and Nancy are familiar with some of these folks and our listeners out there as well. But Colonel Sanders, KFC, formerly known as Kentucky Fried Chicken, before they started introducing grilled chicken and had to kind of get rid of that F word. So they just said, well, let's make it an acronym KFC. He started KFC at 65 years old. And then nine years later, something like 600 700 franchises he sold the whole business for millions and millions and millions of dollars. Laura Ingalls Wilder, I'm probably dating myself here to do both of you are both who? Do you know who she is? Yes. Okay. Little House on the Prairie. Yeah. Did you know she wrote that book at 6565 is when she began writing that book. I found that so amazing. Then it became a television series back in the 70s. I believe it was very successful. Television Program, Golden Girls. As Estelle Getty, she's the character who played Sophia, the mother of Dorothy, she had a relatively unsuccessful acting career for most of her life. I never heard of her before that show, that show is what actually propelled her to start them at age 63. So again, it's it just amazes me when we hear success stories like this, I hear so many folks who are successful at a very early age, and you know, those are equally as amazing. Kids who graduate college at nine years old things like that. I am just so amazed at that. But again, there are just so many different stories of people who are successful much later in life. And again, it relates to purpose, what is our purpose? What do we want? Why are we here? I mean, these are such existential questions. I mean, they're ongoing, baffling questions, what is the meaning of life? Now, there's a couple of things. I think about when it comes to how to find purpose, so that we can feel success. What do you folks think about everything I've just shared so far, Kevin, you want to start?
Kevin Anderson:There's a lot, a lot, a lot of names, a lot of stuff. You know, you brought up success, you brought up passion. First thing that came to mind for me, and I assumed you were gonna like, ask, like, what does success mean to you? So my bad for assuming, here we are. I think success in my opinion evolves, with who you become and what you are able to achieve. And I don't know. I don't really know that success is truly an outcome because no matter what you deem to be that level of success that you desire, once you get err, it's not like you just wipe your hands and you're like, alright, I made it. I'm good. I think once you get there, you're like, Okay, well, the outcome wasn't nearly as important as the journey. And none of that was nearly as important as who I become who I became throughout the process. So I think you start to accept and absorb the growth, really ingrain it with who you are, and continue to move. So I think, to sum all of that up success, to me is more of a lifestyle, it's more of a paradigm, it means going after what you know, you should be doing, regardless of how you feel. It means not conforming, it means living authentically. All of those things to me equal success.
Nancy:All the things, all the things. You You did get it right, he asked, he asked, you know, what, when? When is it that you feel success? And I'm kind of aligned with what you said, because at that point, I, I made a note, it's like, I'm always working towards it. When When have you achieved success? I don't know. I've been successful, I could say that. But I'm not done achieving it, there's more to come. And I feel like it is evolving, like, like Kevin said, and that we're gonna continue towards it.
Kevin Anderson:It's more of like a daily thing. Almost. Like, there are many things that we are successful throughout all of our days, if we choose to be I think some days we can be unsuccessful. But if we focus on those little achievements, doesn't it eventually become that really big thing that you you want? Although again, that does evolve?
Nancy:Yes, that's so true. I was just thinking that and you said, the choice you could choose each day, it might not have been your original goal. But did you achieve something in that day? And can you accept that as being successful in that day? Right? That's what we have to do. Choose it? Yeah,
Lou:I agree. It's, it seems more like a verb than a noun, choose to be successes, is any way to kind of put it in other words each day do things that are on that journey, of moving of being successful, but you're not arriving there. You're just constantly improving. We talk about being lifelong learners, all continuous improvement, but
Kevin Anderson:a prerequisite of success. And this is a question. I don't know if it'll end up forming as a question, as I say what I'm thinking but like, is it a requirement to achieve success on any level that it was predetermined? Right? Because you say you wake up and you're focusing on Daily Success? Don't you have to have some, some actions that you expect yourself to take? There has to be some level of achievement no matter how big or small, but it has to be thought out ahead of time. Because if you're just going with the flow of life, are you really succeeding? As a question that was succeeding? You know, what I mean, to be almost predetermined? What you're going to do in order to achieve success, right? Can you achieve success without a predetermined idea of what you want to accomplish?
Nancy:That's a really good question. Because I first would have said, yes, because we need a plan to move forward. Right, but also what we were just saying, if you can accept a level of progress that you made in a day and feel that you can accept or feel proud of those actions, is that success? Yes. So I mean, you can't be willy nilly and just get what you want without a plan. But can you have success each day? You can?
Lou:It I think, though, I'll call it now the degree of success of that, yeah, that may not even be a right way to put it. But where I'm going is I talked about vision with pulling power. If you are working on those things that really drive you, I think even doing a little bit towards that will probably evoke greater feelings of satisfaction and success than say, running a marathon if the last thing you want to do in the world of run, say that's probably an extreme example, but you know where I'm going. I think if you're working on the things that are related to your purpose, your passion, like what really drives you, there's things every day, I know I need to do. And when I get up I certainly don't want to do I'm when I do I'm, I feel good that I accomplished it. But when I'm really working on that one thing that is just like, wow, this is what and maybe it's a circular thing. You know, maybe working on that thing drives me but it's it's achieving, making that thing becoming a reality that perpetuates the driving. You know, I don't know what it is, is is it the thing that like something in our brains turns on when we're doing something we just really enjoy? I don't know how we can explain that other than obviously, if we all derive satisfaction and pleasure from the same things we'd all be scientists or we'd all be teachers it would all be one thing If our brains operated exactly the same, I think, for
Kevin Anderson:me, it's like, progression where it's like, okay, I'm uncomfortable having to do this thing like, first it starts with your vision, then a level of discomfort, then doing that thing, feeling that discomfort, then feeling the achievement of having taken action to do something uncomfortable, then the motivation of having achieved something that maybe, you know, put off or could have easily put off replacement of something else. And I think that's the cycle, at least for me, I have to constantly be pushing myself to do something that's uncomfortable and, and foreign to me, then I feel growth, then I feel proud of myself, then I want to do it even more. But then the reverse circle, also very quickly, can instill in your life where it's like, oh, I'm comfortable today. Especially if you're choosing to do things that you know, like kind of make it hard to have inhibitions, like for me, it's drinking, having a shitty diet, then it leads to not working out, then it leads to not getting enough sleep. And it's like a downward cycle.
Nancy:I think what you said is so valuable for people to feel or hear because it's not always easy. Like you want like loose saying, you need and want that internal desire to do something or it's just not going to happen, you won't choose it even because what the f4, but like, what you're saying, and I talked to this gal yesterday, she has chronic pain, and she has the stretching exercises that she does in an app, I love it. And if anyone wants, that's the hinge app, I've never explored it. But she hates doing and that's what she's voiced. I hate exit either. I don't want to do it. But she's been able to acknowledge that the results, give her more comfort and the stretching actually works. And so she's accepting and does it and then feels good after. So it's still her choice, but there's a component in there that takes her outside of her comfort zone. But then the results bring. satisfaction and satisfaction is success.
Lou:Absolutely. Well, those are that's an interesting example from the perspective of she, and I'm assuming here she does stretching exercises to help with her pain, to be healthier, I don't know where her pain emanates from. But if it's some level of unhealthy living, she's doing that so that she can live longer, live healthier, live pain free. She doesn't like it, she doesn't want to do it. Obviously, there's people out there bodybuilders, people, personal trainers who do this for a living who love working out. So again, you know, our brains are wired so differently, one person just loves stretching and loves exercising, someone else despises it, but they do it. And they get through that discomfort because they need it. You know, their doc hurt her doctor may have said you have to do this or else you know you're going down a difficult path here. And that, that kind of gets me back to Kevin's point about the discomfort because that does seem to kind of come from two places in or at least two. One is the need to do it. For this reason I need to exercise because my doctor told me to or I really want to be a professional basketball player. So I need to do what I need to do is discomforting as that might be. You know that the second one feels more like a vision with pulling power. It's something I really want. And I'm gonna let myself be uncomfortable until I kind of get through a certain period
Nancy:of changing supporting your personal health is a is a vision with pulling power, and it's pulling a person forward despite the chronic issues that they may have. Right. And so the polling power is there. It's just from a different perspective.
Lou:True and with a different I guess I'll say goal or objective in mind. Yeah, I don't I don't know if per se her main goal or purpose in life is to stretch become a Yeah,
Nancy:with with a diagnose diseases and chronic pain. Yes, her purpose is to be functional in life. You know, like not everyone's pulling power is to exceed beyond what the average person can do. It might be to be with the average person can be.
Lou:Yeah, I guess I was thinking more in terms of say career other things like what what is it that she wants? If it may be you know what, this could be the top of her list right now very well could be like, if you were to ask her, What's your main thing right now going on that very well is probably at the top of the list. I speculate. Okay, I'd like to ask you about then to share a little bit of your thoughts on I brought up you know, a whole aspect of purpose vision with pulling power, passion, all that stuff. So how do you find purpose and especially for those folks who are a little later in life or have certain issues going on like, say this woman you spoke of Nancy? Nancy, what are your thoughts?
Nancy:Well, that's a that's a big, big question. Like Ben said, you know, a lot that you shared earlier. There's a lot there but How do you? How do you find purpose? I think you have to look in at what brings you joy. What? What gives you a level of satisfaction, that if you put your time and energy into that where you feel some sort of I don't, I don't like the word reward, but it's the one that often comes to mind or is used. But that that reward isn't a surprise. It's a level of satisfaction, acceptance. I don't know. Does that make sense? Yeah,
Lou:yep. I think you touched upon something. You didn't use the word but it sounded like you were talking about change or shifting mindset, there was something about the way you phrase something and made me think of mindset shift came to my mind,
Nancy:it might take that it might take that for someone to find purpose, because I think when we're younger in life, we start out doing we have to do to get the more money next more money, more money. I want that promotion, I want this promotion. And it might not be everything. You know, it might be that we know it's just short term, but we want the next step. So we go go go, and then we get to a place in life where like, is this what I want to be doing? And you might then yeah, have to shift your perspective?
Lou:How early in your life? Did you feel or have an inkling about what you wanted to do? And say, are you doing that? In other words, at what age did you go, Yes, I'm gonna be a blank and I am a blank.
Nancy:All the things I thought I wanted to do kind of came full circle in very weird ways. And so I had to trust and follow trust what follow it, I don't know, why intercell. But, um, early on, I did make a choice of what I thought I wanted to do. And that led me to something else, which actually was completely unexpected, but then expanded on what I studied in college, which I didn't follow as a job. And then all of that took me to something else, which all the work of built to, you know, another space. So it evolves, I think we're always evolving. And so it comes back to I did make a choice early on, but I also was open and flexible for it to evolve as things continued.
Lou:Yeah, and as life throws us those curveballs Okay, great, thanks, Kevin, what about you what, what kind of things do you think helps with us finding our purpose, or I don't want to say developing a passion to be passionate should be something that's kind of built within us
Kevin Anderson:probably the most passion and purpose are different. Nancy, what you just finished off with, with the evolving, it really aligns with what kind of eventually came to mind for me, because I was thinking about it and going back and forth. And it, it's somewhat synchronistic, because it correlates to this book that I'm currently reading. But the overall, if I had to define purpose for myself, it would be that I'm a soul having a physical human experience. That's my purpose on this light in this life, right. And as I look for more and more purpose and understand trying, trying to understand the intricacies of what that means, you continue learning, you can continue growing, you can continue evolving. And I think where I'm at right now, what that means for me is to not back down from challenges push through difficult times, privacy, big picture, how I'm growing, going through some of the most challenging tasks in life, because life can weigh very heavy on all of us, and in different ways. So the more we push through, authentically, the larger wheat grow. And then the most simplistic way possible, I think it's that we are here to try to learn feel separation, learn to grow, learn to love, and not know how powerful of beings we are, how how big our consciousness is, I think we're meant to be here and feel little and have to deal with these challenges that seems so big and overwhelming. But in the big picture, none of the stuff that we really deal with matters. You know, we end up dying and moving on and that's unavoidable. The end result is going to be the same. So what do we do along the journey? That's what makes the difference. So that's purpose to me.
Lou:I like that word evolving, too. And I'm going to use that in some of my upcoming interviews because I think that's a great word that fits me as well. You know, we're always learning always evolving. I think that's awesome. Kevin, okay. Something you said really piqued my curiosity, and I'm going to ask you to share a little bit more you said My purpose is I'm a spiritual being inside of a physical body or a physical manifestation. That, okay, so you are a spirit inside a physical body for the purpose of is it to be? Or is there more to it to share, to learn.
Nancy:If you could see Kevin's face right now, it would be great because there is a lot connected to that that we all know from, from knowing his thoughts and expressions,
Lou:we're gonna make a meme out of that.
Kevin Anderson:I don't really have it all figured out. But I think what resonates most with me is that, like, I do think that we chose to come here. I think that, you know, whatever you whatever your belief system is, I mean, everybody thinks, you know, believes and feels different things. But I think we agreed to come here, I think that we knew a lot of the challenges that we would face being here. And I think that when we are in the afterlife, so to speak, when we are connected with the oneness from which we come, I think we're able to understand this life from a different perspective, from an overarching more macro level perspective. So we come here, we break down from our higher self. And we choose to experience so that we can learn from the perspective that we are engaging through in this life in order to grow, and then go back to that oneness, having learned through firsthand experience, what this life is like. And, you know, that's what resonates with me, I believe that we've experienced many lifetimes. And I think that some of the challenges we face and other lives, come back to us, if we're not able to grow past a certain point or learn a certain thing, I think we're challenged again, in the same way and other lives. So I think a lot of the things that each one of us struggles with in this life, we've probably had lifetimes of struggling in the same ways. And we just have to learn how to overcome, we can't run we can't hide, we have to go through depression.
Nancy:Love that. I love that. I feel like if all that's true, because sometimes I feel like I do everything the hard way in life, like, I seems like some people have it easier. And that could just be the greener grass. And I don't know. But I do feel like I've done things the hard way. So in another life, that things come in a smoother way to me than what they sometimes feel like.
Kevin Anderson:But I will say a lot of that a lot of my beliefs come from turning inward, which we talk a lot about when you can get yourself to a certain point. And I think there's different ways to achieve it. For me, it's meditation. But you start to just feel some of this and understand some of this. And you know, I could be off, we could all be having different experiences. And after this life, we all experience what we think we're going to experience because we know consciousness affects everything around us. So I don't know. It's challenging. It's very difficult. There's no you know what I mean? Like, we're always we're taught to use data, and we're very focused on the physical world around us and physics, like, but I think there's so much more. And there's so much unexplainable. There's so many unexplainable things in this world. So
Lou:we only know what we know, what we don't know,
Kevin Anderson:go down the rabbit hole as much as you want. But yeah,
Lou:well, you know, you know, what I find interesting is many, if not most, arguably, most people think of our existence and our being in this tangible, human alive form as this is it meaning this is all there is in the universe. We earthlings Earth, our planet, yada yada yada, you know, a lot of people just feel that we're it. And even when they think of for those who think of there is an afterlife, whether it's from a religious context or otherwise religious or that the afterlife is still in a similar form, meaning I see spirits of people that I know. And I'm and I'm, if it's anything like me, they probably also envision it like in human form. You see the vision of your your parents or friends who have passed, like everything is still of what we know. And that makes sense because it's all we know. You know, you may think, Okay, I'm gonna die and go to a place where I can ride horses for eternity because that's what I love. I don't know. It's just that that's, but I'm always fascinated by what What about what we don't know? In other words, how do we not know that we won't won't run into some being from some faraway Galaxy place when we're gone? Because at that point, again, we're all just energy and we go to who knows what place after we're gone? And who knows, if we don't cross paths with things in people? I'll call them people. But that's because that's our Earthlink terminology from other places that we just don't know. Well, there's a lot of my making sense here.
Kevin Anderson:Yeah, for sure. And there's a lot of, there's a lot of clues and a lot of hints that you can find. And this is why I like reading so much, because I'll pick up a book and it'll be something based on spirituality or something. And then it goes into talking about stuff like that. And of the hundreds of books that I've read in the past few years, there's so much that connects. And there's so much that I feel like it's very important to answering a lot of those questions and a lot of the questions that we have with our existence, but we're never taught. Like, I think that most of what we think about this life comes from things that we are taught that we're told by our parents by the religion that we're told to follow by our teachers, and work. You know, if you think about the small amount of information in like the schooling system, it doesn't go into this larger theme. It's just very structured. Here's what you need to learn so that you can go to college so you can get a job and be successful. But that seems to me to be more of conformity. They want to fit you in this square hole. But what if you're a circle, or a different shape? And you're not meant to fit into that? You know, everyone's growing up, we're all gauged on on our intelligence by being able to answer certain questions and certain on certain subjects. And how many classes do we have like eight different classes, and you're telling me that everything like we don't learn about our sole nature, we don't learn about the universe too much, right? Except what's implanted in us? We don't learn to question things or question narratives are taught to obey. And if you don't obey, you get in trouble. Like, we're just so restricted. So you have to really branch out to look and not even look for the right answers, but the right answers for you, what resonates with you, if all you do is get your information from what's fed to you, through the news or whatever, you're not going to learn about any of that stuff, there's a whole universe will say, out there of information. And I think we tend to really just believe what we're taught, you know, you grow up in a culture of a certain religion, and all the other religions are wrong, all the religions of the past are wrong. Anyone who, you know, thought different things. Before our time, they were way off, you know, like, we just start judging based on the things that we think we know, well, we don't choose to know those things. Those things are taught to us, we never choose it. There's some truth
Nancy:and all that. But I think I would have to say, you know, my upbringing was more open than what maybe your upbringing was. So I feel a sense of that questioning what's around us, and learning to believe in trust was there when I was younger, and so I have a deeper ability, maybe for all of that now in life, and but everyone is going to come from a different place on what that is. But that also ties back to, we don't know. And Lou, what you're saying, I think we have to in the physical life you were talking about in your current life, we don't know what we don't know. And we have to continue to grow and learn to evolve or evolve to grow and learn, can go in any direction. Being willing to evolve and learn and grow, is what will allow us to continue in the next life. Whatever form it is, whatever form it is, if we're rigid here, we're gonna struggle there because we're not open. So both you guys are talking about evolving is in different yet similar ways.
Lou:I think I mean, the whole conversation about the matrix, I think is fascinating. And, man, we could do so many episodes on that, because I really do find that fascinating as well. And as you mentioned, we all have different upbringings. And it's hard for me to discern if that's the right word, whether what we're taught is purely what we're taught because that's what was taught to those who taught us or because that's all there's time for there certainly isn't enough time in a 75 year average. Let's say that's the average lifespan right now human being To teach as everything, or as Kevin pointed out, they're told to teach that so they have to follow and of course, with schools or curriculums, and you know, that is a given, so they are told to teach certain things. There's, there's such a huge a dynamic to that. That is That is fascinating. And I don't know if we'll ever have, say the right answers, because again, have to get into people's heads in many ways. And of course, it gets to things like power, and money always gets backed up, power and money, power and money, power and money. But I, if I was to make one change, to what we learn as kids, and I don't know how early to start, because kids don't understand things at a certain age, it isn't until a certain time they can start to grasp things, though, is to literally say, at some point, early as possible. We are not going to teach you everything that exists in the world. And even what we're going to teach you is part of a path that has been, has been I don't I'm not gonna say shown to work but has been what we've been used to, and we've been doing for ages, which is go to school for 12 years, go to college for four more years work for X number of years, blah, blah, blah, that's, that's still the thinking of, of my parents, and a lot of my family is that's how you live your life. I don't agree with that. But again, that's because that's how they were taught. But if kids could learn at an early age that you know, we're going to teach a lot of stuff. And there's going to be a lot of crap around that meaning some teachers have their own opinions on stuff. So what they're telling you could be from their own viewpoint, other teachers may miss may misconstrue some things. And certainly, we're not going to be able to teach you everything that you need to know, I don't know how effective that would be overall, but at least it would get kids to begin to think critically, I think both of you kind of mentioned that is at least keep an open mind that there's more out there than what you're taught. And some of what you may be taught as wrong.
Kevin Anderson:I think it would be equally as important to, to teach to live from feeling instead of thinking so much. minds can be controlled. But hearts are more difficult to control. So live more from the heart like kids. I've read books on like kids having powers and stuff and these dreams and like kids say the craziest shit, right? And we're just like you had a dream like your you know, that doesn't happen in the real world. I think kids are very tapped into the non physical. I think that they're, you know, obviously they're closer to birth, they're more tuned into that. And then we kind of squander that for them as adults by telling them what's real and what's not. But are we aren't having this discussion on what's real and what's not still, you know what I mean? Thank you, right?
Lou:That's a good point. I saw a video once of a little girl that she was probably all at two years old standing at a gravesite with her mom because her mom was at the gravesite of her mom. So it was the child's grandmother. And the little girl stood there and she kind of raised her arms up in the year as if she was holding somebody's hand. And then she even lifted up and kissed the air, a toddler two years old. Come on, there's no way she was doing that for the camera. She wasn't even concerned that the mom was filming. And the mom started filming purely because the kid was acting weird.
Nancy:My daughter shared when she was I don't know, less than five, right Give or take that age though. But she's had experiences talking with ghosts or spirits or whatever in her room. And she she talked about that they're friendly, and that there's no need to worry. And they come out at a certain time. And clearly, she had no inhibitions about what that could be. And she was open and receptive. So she was able to have that experience. And and the older we get, the more we we question and doubt or fear sets in or something like that. But ya know, I think that they do have more of an open mind when they're younger.
Lou:I see dead people.
Kevin Anderson:Yeah, I think being able to utilize senses, let's call them senses or capabilities that we have naturally. Again, something that we're not talking about that we have to go read about or that some some people think, oh, that's bullshit. I mean, you think about back in the day like witches or whatever, anybody doing things that were out of the norm, people that were not conforming? were labeled. Yeah. And then killed or whatever, right? Because they don't fit in. That's not normal. So we're different.
Nancy:I fully believe in mediums and I know that each mediums ability comes through in different ways, how they can connect and communicate is different from each of them, but I totally believe that they have an ability we all have that ability. I think we just I don't know I don't know how to tap into mine.
Lou:I'm gonna bring this back in because we haven't to bring this back in because we got Off topic a little bit. So I'm not sure how we're going to title this episode, folks. So let me just ask, and you know what, this is great conversation that we should probably have an entirely different episode on this. But I want to get back a little bit to the purpose and the purpose thing. Some of the items I had marked down myself about finding purpose and how to go about doing that we talked about some of them was the shifting your mindset or adjusting your mindset. If you're, if you're continuing to do what you're doing, you're not getting what you want. You're not. That's not, you're not getting there, you're not achieving success. I mean, it seems to be as simple as that, or do something to make something and do nothing and nothing will change. There's kind of another thing like the others keep learning, we talked about ongoing learning, evolving. Again, I love that word. I think that's amazing. I made note about recognizing differences. And that's interesting that that came up as a topic, even though we kind of had a little bit of a tangent over into the real versus I don't want to say non real, but Well, those are differences, and we're recognizing them. But that yes, but that's a good point. Because that's a recognizing that there are differences in the world and whatever world we're in right now, the the tangible and non tangible. The other one was be creative, because I think this also speaks to that exact top what we just discussed as well. Little kids have a lot of creativity. Born at some point, we just lose it. I don't get it. You know, what the heck is that about? You know, if we can,
Nancy:I think there's that that ability to let go and be present is what that's about. And that we're always feeling this pressure to go move forward, take action, and you have to I'm not, I'm not denying, that's all true, too. But at some points in time, we need to let ourselves just be. And that's where the creativity comes from, you know, when you feel stuck, you have to stop moving, like like, even literally, when a car is stuck in the mud, if they just keep pressing the pedal, it's mud or snow just digs in deeper. And so you have to stop and do something to shift. And the same thing is true for people. So the creativity comes when you stop and make a shift.
Lou:Find your purpose in there. Sorry, yeah. And I think it gets back to something Kevin spoke about, which is, you know, as we grow up, we're in school, we are taught things were told things by parents, peers, religious authorities, any anyone that seems maybe in some ways that puts in things in our brain, you know, and removes the creativity, stuff from us. It's not like we have a limited amount of brain space. But it's almost like it's focused on this and that that and it just seems to have our creative neurons deteriorate, those pathways become less and less.
Kevin Anderson:Because if you are using creativity or doing something that's not normal, quote, unquote, you get ostracized, like as a kid, especially, you know, how many kids are weird, or whatever, and get picked on and stuff like, you can't just be yourself, you have to fit into this box. I feel like that's squanders our ability to be creative in a lot of ways.
Lou:It is funny how it comes up in society periodically, though, like, you know, the whole thing I'll just use an example could because I can't think of any other one at the moment. But electric cars, you know, when somebody first had the idea to create an electric car, you know, I'm sure they were picked on made fun of ostracised, all that stuff, then all of a sudden, oh, my goodness, genius and electric car. I never would have thought of that. Well, yeah, but some people do think of this. And I think the concept has been around many, many years, probably going back as far as even when the cars were first developed. Many reasons for that, too. Of course, I'm not even going to get into
Nancy:well, so whoever that was right, right now I'm thinking of certain people, but but that person was confident in their purpose. And they felt like they could move forward with that no matter what anyone else set. So when you're talking about purpose, it's like that they felt passionate about what that is and wanted to do that. Regardless of deformity, and what people felt was possible. And so that inner trust is what you have to pull out connected to whatever purpose is for you.
Lou:That's a good point. If it wasn't as strong as it was, we might not have the things we have now.
Kevin Anderson:I think you have to be willing to sacrifice everything. A lot of the time, are what you believe in?
Nancy:Yeah. Which is hard, right? I find the people who it seems like have the biggest successes, they do do that like they're willing to risk a lot more than maybe the average person is myself for sure. I'm such a risk averse person, but and then they have the greatest success. So it's true where they come from. You hear about a lot of people who come from nothing And then they make it really big, because they're not stuck on what they have. They're like, I got nothing. So what do I get, if I just take step forward and they do it and they're more willing to do it?
Kevin Anderson:Yeah, but you have to also just have so much conviction. Because along the way, there are gonna be a lot of doubters, and conviction. And now those people are going to be the closest people to you that say, they love you, and you love them. But they're looking through the lens of their perspective, they're not seeing your vision. And they're gonna try to keep you safe, right, like a lot of a lot of our innate capacity is about survival and staying safe, which is why it's hard to get out of our comfort zone, right? Because it's different. And the ego doesn't know what's going to happen. So that's why I think it's important to tap in and Nancy, you mentioned, like, someone that's creative, or, or comes up with these ideas. And I, I almost believe the majority of the time, it's us tuning in, to what's available around us, instead of us actually creating it with with our brains, I think we get ourselves to a certain frequency and were able to tap in because this stuff's been around like Nikola Tesla had powers that could harness the natural energy of the earth, like we could have free power everywhere. And we won't get into conspiracies on what happened with that. But you look at the pyramids, you look at other ancient sites around the world, and the fact that there had to have been some type of either advanced civilization or advanced technology to construct a lot of these sites, because we can't even replicate them now at a at a fraction of the scale that they actually exist on this planet. So I think, yeah, I think it's out there, I think I think going inward is always the answer. going inward, figuring it out, letting it come to you, letting the letting your life speak to you, I think you have to tune in, to know where to go. That's a good point,
Lou:you know, maybe spending a little bit of time 30 minutes an hour, periodically, once a week, whatever it may be to just kind of let yourself sit there be present, be creative. Think of ideas. I know I used to actually do that years ago, because what I wanted to be an inventor, I want to invent something that will change the world that will make life easier, always wanted to do that. Even if it was something simple, like wheels on luggage boy, I had that idea years ago, I wish I would have ran with it. Because here we are someone else's a billionaire off of my idea, but I always and I would do that I would literally just take a little bit of time. And think what does the world need? You know, if we all spent a little doing that, you know, there might be a lot, a lot more. And maybe people do? I don't know.
Kevin Anderson:It's funny, like one of the reasons why I think that they're not just individual ideas or thoughts. And I think it's more widespread than that is because you can read about the history of inventions, right, or new technological advances. And they don't just happen, like in one area of the world, like, people around the world in different countries will be working on achieving some type of breakthrough on something right. And at, like, relatively the same time, multiple people will figure it out in completely random spots that weren't even communicating with each other about what they were working on. So again, I think it's, I think, collective
Nancy:greater connection. That's greater connection.
Lou:Yeah, yeah, exactly. And then it makes me wonder, Oh, maybe there was somebody from the future who came back in time and kind of planted the seed. I mean, totally. Yeah. You never know. Lou, I
Nancy:think what you were talking about, I actually, like, did this morning, my morning coffee time is that time where I think in process, how my day is gonna evolve. And I know sometimes my partner's like, is she gonna get off her rear and do something today? Or hang over there for how long? But But what happened in that? That's my time to think and I have to bring some components for dinner tonight. And I was like, I don't. And all of this, like, what could it be? When could it be? How could my day line up with the other responsibilities and commitments that I've made? How will it all work? They spent that time thinking and then it came together and it's like, good, now I can get started. Now I can go do this. And that's it. But I had to take that time to just let it unfold on its own. Have an intention. And think of alternatives and then and then the puzzle pieces lined up.
Lou:Yeah, I agree. And that's a perfect time to do it is with coffee because I know, it certainly starts to pick me up and get things firing. So. Okay, I'd like to do a little exercise. This won't take long, but it's related to the finding a purpose. And it's it's one of those things What comes first to your mind kind of thing? So I'll ask and then just call in each of you and ask our listeners to join in this exercise as well just say whatever or think to yourselves, whatever comes to your mind immediately, which is each of these questions. These are questions designed to help you find purpose. Okay, so I'm going to ask you the question, then I'll, you know, maybe let's go in order. We'll do Nancy first and Kevin, answer the question, and then we'll just move on to the next and they are gonna get a little inquiry. I'm not gonna say difficult, but they you may need a little bit more time to think, you know, take take a little bit of time, but again, whatever comes to mind first, okay, Nancy, in thinking about, and this is for both of you and thinking about one area of your life, whether it's career, finances, family, social, religious, spiritual, whatever, any one area in just one word. What is it that you want?
Nancy:Collaboration, and I want it in all of those areas? And I'm sorry, what was the word? Collaboration? Collaboration? Got it. Kevin?
Kevin Anderson:Acceptance. Awesome.
Lou:In just one phrase, why do you want it, Nancy?
Nancy:I mean, I have one word in mind. And it's communication. But it's interaction. It's the ability to
Kevin Anderson:interact, heaven to be able to engage with life experiences with equanimity. Awesome. Love it.
Lou:In just one sentence. Now, we're going to form a complete thought here and just one sentence. What would your life be like, with that thing that you want? Nancy,
Nancy:life would be more at ease. Because I think those things collaboration and communication, bring whatever you're experiencing together, being able to work together, being able to communicate about it and interact in a calmer way would just bring east.
Lou:Awesome, Kevin
Kevin Anderson:would be able to tap into my innate powers and become a superhero.
Lou:Nice. I would love to see that too. By the way, in just one paragraph. Now, it's going to be a couple of sentences. Right? No, this is the last one, by the way. So and one, this is the last one it just one paragraph one scroll in one book, and one pamphlet, okay. Now this, although we could keep going, but yeah, we don't have a lot of time. It just one paragraph. But this is to me the linchpin, or it should be the apex of this discussion of this nature. What steps can you take to start today, to start to make that a reality, Nancy?
Nancy:Oh, that's powerful, really, because if I want collaboration, I have to give collaboration, if I want communication, I have to communicate and initiate probably communication, right? And then Damn, and if I want ease and interaction and joy and simplicity or calm, I have to bring that so I mean, be willing. So I think what's most important here is that I have to be willing to start first and behave in the way that I want others to be with me. Perfect. Love it.
Kevin Anderson:Nancy years is very challenging. But I love how you took it. Well, it's just like, because you want communication, right? So it's initially like, Well, how am I going to make other people communicate? So you took the power back upon yourself to basically lead by example and facilitate change on your end to inspire change on on the other end? I love that. What was the question again?
Lou:I'm just, I was actually mesmerized. But Nancy by urine says, well, because I thought it was it. You literally are practicing what we preach, you know, lead by example. You can't control others, you can only control yourself. So I love it. Perfect. So Kevin, and just one paragraph. What steps can you take today to make what you want a reality?
Kevin Anderson:I think step one, probably the most important one is to eliminate negative external stimuli as much as possible. I think Step two is to turn inward and focus on my true being. Step three, I think is to facilitate having a healthy physical body and then continue to take actions I know that serve me and don't pull me back from accomplishing what I'm setting out to accomplish.
Lou:Nice, you know, I was thinking, Oh, wow, this one's going to be interesting because Your One Word desire about Acceptance comes from external. That so that would be very unlike thinking, oh my god, what is your paragraph going to be? Because that's about what can I do? And it's almost like to inspire or to get acceptance by others. But that was, you know what? Eliminating negative stimuli perfect. Why be around those who don't quite I
Kevin Anderson:think it all really just boils down to frequency and vibration. And the more that we allow negative or lower frequencies and vibrations to be a part of our experience, the more we'll pulled back. So I think, you know, we all we seem to always want this information, what's going on in the world and all this stuff. And it's always just negative. It's like if we all just turn inward. And just stop focusing on all of that. I feel like it'll almost fix itself, like it has to, you know, think, where are you? Where your attention goes, energy flows? Joe Dispenza. I don't know if he came up with that quote, but I love it.
Lou:I think it's good. I remember seeing that in the book. I I used to think many years ago, that if folks would just be open minded, use facts, learn the truth, etc, etc. They could and would change their own beliefs, and many people do. But it is sad that there are a lot maybe it's just the loudest ones that are narrow minded and choose to stay where they're at in a negative way. And I had to make that decision to to say, You know what, I just gotta cut that loose. And why bother continuing to expose myself to 7 billion whatever people on the planet? What Why should I bother with that? Point? 1% is just so loud and damaging to our psychological well being. It's it's sad. Wow, okay, that so that was it? Yes, there's no pamphlet, there's no book. There's no encyclopedia set series, whatever, Bible. So we each just
Nancy:made a page of a pamphlet with our answers.
Kevin Anderson:Oh, you know what, real quick. I didn't want to comment, Nancy, when you talked about the creativity being in the morning. This book that I read that inspired our last episode on paradigm shifts. It's called Change your paradigm change your life by Bob Proctor. And one of the things he mentioned is one of the steps you can take to facilitate long term change, you know, paradigm shift, subconscious adjustment, is first thing when you wake up journal, and write down all the things that you want to become, and all the things you want to manifest in your life because that is where you're able to tap in. And if you think about it, what is sleep? A lot of a lot of circles will say that in sleep, we astral project or our consciousness doesn't stick with our body because our consciousness or energy doesn't need to sleep, it doesn't need rest. So it detaches from the body and it goes and does whatever. So you think you're more tuned in to like that non physical element of our lives. And right when you wake up is right when you're getting back into the physical world. So you're still tuned in, so to speak to those frequencies that would make sense where you're able to focus a lot of energy into creation. Right when you wait, love that?
Lou:Gosh, I was hoping you were gonna say Bob said start with a cup of coffee. We only write on this coffee journal. Yeah. Okay. Well, I think you know what, I'm going to leave you and our listeners with a couple more examples. Before we conclude this episode, Grandma Moses started painting at age 78. Did you know that unbelievable, Harriet Thompson ran her first marathon at 76. And her last at 91. Unbelievable. Some people can't even run a marathon at 15. You know what, whether you're 1727 5777 It's never too late. Get out there and run that marathon. Get out there, run that marathon. Start that end, do whatever makes you happy. Do whatever you have is your vision with pulling power seriously. And you know what it may take a morning of journaling, of drinking coffee while you're journaling of just thinking about a little bit of getting those creative juices flowing. That's all it is about. Hope you enjoy this episode, everyone. And I hope both you Kevin and Nancy found this little exercise helpful as well. I look forward to all of you joining us on our next episode. Bye for now.